Insight: Along the Path

Journal Thursday

2010-12-30T09:25:00.000-08:00

Every year around this time many people consider their New Year's resolution. We usually want so much to reach our goal and we are in the mood for some changes. Then, after a few days, or a few tries, or a few thoughts to get going we somehow get bogged down with other things in life and stop pursuing our resolution. How can we break this streak of not resolving what we set out to do?

In this journal exercise, write out and set out to

Determine what one thing that must change in your life that you are willing to set out and do
Identify at least 3 activities that you would be willing to stop doing for at least 21 days in order to meet your change
List in priority from 1-4 (with 1 being the most important) the one thing that must change, and these 3 activities you are considering to stop
If your one thing that must change is not # 1, then you are not ready to make the change and you must weigh your decision carefully to determine if it is needed and what will make it top priority for change in your life
If it is #1, then you are ready to set out a path for change.
Of the 3 activities you will stop, pick one that the new change will replace.
Replace it with the one thing you are changing
In the change keep SMART change in view

S- Keep it simple and yet specific (Does it stretch me, is it worthwhile to do?)
M-Keep it measurable (Can I measure in a tangible way the steps toward change?)
A-Keep it able to be completed (can I see myself able to meet this change?)
R-Keep it realistic to you (Is it within my ability, control to do?)
T-Keep it time-limited (Will I see results in a realistic time frame? Example: 1-3 weeks, 1-3 months, 3-6 months, one year)

Tell at least 1-3 close friends, family, or co-workers of the one thing you are setting out to change
Ask at least 1 of them to check in with you daily or every other day or weekly as to how you are doing with this change...one to be accountable to for your change.

REMEMBER: YOU CAN DO IT!

Journal Thursday

2010-06-10T13:30:00.000-07:00

Consider a time in your life when you were offensive or not the best of friends to a close friend, spouse or family member. Take a moment and journal your experience.

Now ask yourself, "Have I made things right with this person? If so, how is my relationship with him/her since that time? If not, what would I like to do with the unresolved matter?"

If you have no way of contacting this person and things are not resolved, take a moment and journal your thoughts and feelings about the relationship and determine what you'd like to say to him/her to resolve the matter for you.

Journal Thursday

2010-05-20T16:56:00.000-07:00

Today's journal is about reflections. This is the month many students graduate from school and there is always much talk about "the future". However, taking time to reflect on all the milestone, hard work, dedication, and goals achieved are of great importance. If you are a graduate, have graduated in the past, are anticipating graduation, or have had a milestone achieved, please take a moment and journal about your milestone. Reflect on the key points mentioned above. Feel free to share the struggles, joy, pain, and victory of your milestone/s with others.

Journal Thursday

2010-04-08T09:25:00.000-07:00

Once upon a time in a land far far away....

Today's journal entry is about creative fantasy. Either pick one of your favorite fairy tales and write about what you like most about it or write your own fairy tale. Discover or consider the who...what...when...where...how of the story as you write out your entry.

Time To Face It

2010-04-06T08:13:00.000-07:00

You have stalled long enough...put it off until something else could be put in its place. Now, it is all that is left...it's facing you. What is it? What is this perplexing annoyance? What is the one thing that keeps popping up in your life that you avoid? Push away? Despise? Pretend it does not exist? Deny?

Take the time to...

Gather your resources
Look beyond yourself to trusted friend/s, family, mentor/s, spiritual leader/s, God
Seek counsel
Find strength in others who have faced "it"
Define your "it" in order to gain a clear vision of what must be done
Devise a plan of action toward your desired outcome
Take the first step
Don't give up...stay strong with the strength of momentum, your resources, the strength of others
Realize others can and many times do find strength in your willingness to face your "it"
Smile as you share your struggles, hurts, and victories along the way
Review your progress, your plan, those who you have helped
Be an encouragement, an inspiration to others who are needing to face their "it"

Journal Thursday

2010-04-01T12:25:00.000-07:00

Using your imagination, take on the persona of a favorite cartoon character. Journal about your day today from his/her point of view.

Journal Thursday

2010-03-25T10:13:00.000-07:00

Spring time is here already.

Journal about Spring time. What comes to mind? Maybe you reminisce about previous Springs that you enjoyed. Either way, journal about Spring....times, places, events, people.

Be Proactive

2010-03-23T08:44:00.000-07:00

Make everyday a day to be proactive in your mental health and well being.

Here's a simple list to get started

Attitude check...what your attitude is determines your start and finish
Eat healthy...keep it simple, nutritious
Sleep...typical need is 6-8 hours (at one sleeping) daily
Be a problem-solver...if there's conflict, work to resolve it; be alert to potential snafus
Keep short lists...of activities, hurts, problems
Seek God...pray, realizing we live in a huge universe...it took some intelligent design to put it together and you're a part of it
Empower others...compliments, encouraging, helping others goes a long way
Smile

Give these a try for awhile and revisit the list from time to time as well as add some of your own to it.

Empower Your Own Health

2010-03-22T07:17:00.000-07:00

With much talk, discussion, debate, marches, protests, and tension around the health care of those in the states, who is responsible for my health? Your health? If one or a group of people seek benefit or privilege from another who has the power to do so at the expense of yet another, then who is in charge of those people's health? Those who control that privilege become decision makers in those "privileged" people's health care. However, if one takes responsibility for his or her own care and he or she joins with a group of like-minded people who wish to collectively help in the care of each other, then this is a collective responsibility and choice. Thus, the individual and the collective group empower themselves to be in charge of their own heath care.

In the mental health arena, you hear many counselors, social workers and the like touting much of self-care, self-responsibility, and empowerment in your daily decision making and those decisions effect you and those around you.

Who decides how you think, how you feel, how you act, what your attitude will be? Empower your own health!

Journal Thursday

2010-03-18T09:31:00.000-07:00

Most everyone enjoys celebrations in life. A lot of times we share this with a specific or special group of people. As many just celebrated St. Patrick's Day, it got me thinking about cultural celebrations.

For this journal entry, consider your cultural heritage and pick a celebration that you either enjoy or one that best fits with your heritage and journal about your experiences or daydream for a moment of how you'd like to be a part of the celebration.

Who Do You Talk To First?

2010-03-16T09:07:00.000-07:00

We all have happy, exciting moments in life we like to share with others about...celebrations, birthdays, sporting events, getting a great deal on sale, and many other everyday life events. So where do we go to share our excitement? Facebook? Twitter? Text our friends or family? Phone call? Email? Postcard?

What about when life hits us hard? When we're just not our best, or feeling sad or depressed? Or just stressed out? Where do we go then? Do we share with the same people about our rough times as well as our good? Or do we withdraw or withhold how we are really feeling? Sometimes, friends and family may not understand or they are too close to the situation to be open, honest, or objective with us. This is where we may find ourselves at the doctor's office because we may have some physical symptoms that have popped up along with how we are feeling. So we may tell our doctor about how we are doing...after all, the doc's in the healing profession so he'd be a good choice. Or perhaps a priest or pastor, or religious leader may be where we go. And of course, there is a counselor.

When it's time to share "private" matters, go to someone who you can trust...who will be able to listen and hold in confidence your hurts and hopefully for you to gain solace and refreshment through it all.

Journal Thursday

2010-02-25T16:29:00.000-08:00

Freestyle journaling day. Pick up your pen and paper and start writing whatever comes to your mind. After you're done set done your pen take a day or two and return to what you wrote.

Journal Thursday

2010-02-11T09:15:00.000-08:00

"Love is in the air". A saying we hear all so frequently during this Valentine's Day time. But what does this mean? What comes to mind? Take a moment and write your thoughts.

Is what you wrote the way love is in your life right now? How would you like to see love demonstrated in your life? Take a moment here and write down your answers.

Are you loving the same way you wished to be loved? What might you change in what you are doing? Continue journaling your answers.

Now take a moment and reflect on your journal entry.

3 Ways Music Impacts Our Mood

2010-02-08T07:27:00.000-08:00

What is it about music that sets the mood? Or what mood sets the music? Music has great influence in our lives.

Weigh in on these 3 ways it impacts / influences...

Empower us-- To take courage, stay the course, be strong, motivate to thought, feeling, and action
Stir / Influence us-- Moves us to a particular mood or action (whether negative or positive) as well as entertains us
Soothe us-- Bring comfort, peace, calm and revival to a weary soul.

Whatever reason or reasons you listen to music and any particular genre, recognize what mood you are in before, during and after the music. How do you feel? What thoughts are stirred? What action/s are you finding yourself doing?

Journal Thursday

2010-02-04T19:12:00.000-08:00

What mood are you in? Happy? Sad? Angry? Energetic? Frustrated? Peaceful? Jealous? Content? Etc... Write it down.

Take a moment and begin to hum.

Now, consider what music genre, group /artist or song you would like to sing or listen to? Write this song title or genre down. Pull up the song or group/artist off your "techie device" (mp3, CD player, website, etc), pick the song and listen to it.

Did the song you listened to match your mood? Or was it a song to counter (change) your mood?

Journal a bit about this choice and your reason/s.

Sanctuary

2010-02-02T10:31:00.000-08:00

What comes to mind when you hear the word "sanctuary"? Perhaps, a sacred building, temple, cathedral, or mosque or a place of refuge, safety or harmony. Do you have a place you go to find that "sanctuary"? Maybe home, or a quiet outdoor spot, or possibly a chapel to go and pray. If you don't have a place to go consider some options. Now this is a place that may be an escape from life's problems but look at it as more of a retreat...a place to relax, yes, but to recharge, reflect and seek guidance. This guidance can come from inner reflection, a friend, family member...yet there are many times we could use a "higher power" perspective that goes beyond natural reasoning or knowledge. Give yourself time during your sanctuary and with many times of "calling out". Seek the Lord while He still may be found.

When there is time you want to give up, throw in the towel...remember "SANCTUARY"!

Journal Thursday

2010-01-28T22:56:00.000-08:00

What a day!

For today's (this week's) journal...

Close your eyes and take a deep breath...in through the nose and then out through the mouth....then repeat the deep breathing exercise once more.
Now, open your eyes and write the first 3 words that come to your mind in a vertical (up-and-down) row.
For each word, write about what each of them means to you at this moment.
Review what you wrote...if anything seems negative or out of sorts with you, give yourself a few moments to reflect on how you may improve from the thoughts and feelings that flowed out in your words.

If things seem overwhelming, then find a trusted friend to talk to or consider setting up a counseling session or 2 with a counselor to sort things out in a private, confidential setting. Go to our pathways website for more information.

Feelings...nothing more than feelings

2010-01-25T11:25:00.000-08:00

Feelings, feelings, we all have them. Some of us express them more than others but we all have 'em. Are feelings right or wrong? Good or bad? No. It's about what inside of us that triggered the feelings. It's what we do with our feelings. They are invaluable to us and act as an internal barometer telling us what's going on inside us.

What do your feelings tell you about yourself? Do you tend to avoid or ignore them? Tell everyone around you about how you feel?

If there's times you can't seem to make sense of them or them keep coming up with internal turmoil or distress, then it may be time to seek some help with a counselor to sort them out and get some peace of mind back in your life.

Journal Thursday

2010-01-21T13:02:00.000-08:00

For your journal...
Keep this in mind: How will a better me be a blessing to those I love?

Now, take a moment and list 3 things you can do to better help take care of yourself :)

Getting Help Myself So I Can Help Others

2010-01-19T10:03:00.000-08:00

It doesn't take long to look around and see the need for help...the economy, loss of jobs, bankruptcies, tornadoes, results of wars, foreclosures, and recently the devastation in Haiti. We also see how resourceful people become during these times and many lend a helping hand to others. The need for reciprocal relationships is huge especially now and especially in a local face-to-face community. But what if I can't trust others? If I am surrounded by takers and few givers? How much should I give? Do I give my last dollar or the shirt off my back in order to help others? When do I ask for help? Who can I trust? Many questions come to mind as we face uncertainty.

When it comes to counseling, many times we use the analogy of the flight attendant giving instructions just before take off. The attendant explains the exits, seat belts, laboratories, and then about the oxygen masks in case of low cabin pressure. They show us how to put them on and if we have small children to put our mask on first, then the child's mask. Why? I want my child to breathe and survive, right? A natural parental instinct. But in times of crisis I need to be stable and breathing well so I can in turn help my scared, frantic child. As I am calm, gain a sense of direction, am assured, the more I can be of help for others. When you feel and are more confident, you will be more ready and able to see clearly enough to assist and bless others.

Journal Thursday

2010-01-14T08:42:00.000-08:00

On this Journal Thursday, consider just one goal you would like to reach. Dream about it for a bit. What would it be like to achieve this goal? See yourself working toward it. Visualize it being completed.

Now, write out your one goal and include the value and importance of this goal for you.

What Drives Motivation?

2010-01-12T08:32:00.000-08:00

A question of the centuries. Many factors come to mind...

Self satisfaction, gratification, pleasure, fulfillment, greed, and for some self-deprecation

Kindness, peace toward others or environment

Guilt, shame, fear, anger, bitterness, rage, hate

Restoration, health, healing

Urgency

Love

What motivates you? Perhaps a mix of each of these at different times in your day, week, year, or life. Consider carefully what motivates you, the actions you take out of your motivation and the outcome/s that may follow. What, when, where, how, and who will be affected by your decision/s?

Journal Thursday

2010-01-07T20:26:00.000-08:00

Along the line of motivation...Identify 3 things that motivate (or unmotivate) you to set goals.

Write these 3 things down and journal a bit about each one.

Now read over what you just wrote. What out of this can you learn about yourself? Jot these observations down as well.

New Year...New Goals?

2010-01-05T08:23:00.000-08:00

Well, here we are.. the 2010 year is in full swing...but have you set a goal for yourself? It sure is easy to say and dream of having a goal to meet but what keeps us from believing in goals, setting goals, creating a step by step plan to achieving them?

M-O-T-I-V-A-T-I-O-N.

Take a moment and weigh/consider your motivation for goal setting.
Hope, value, passion, love, peace, joy and other reasons may be motivators for pursuing goals. What will yours be?

Journal Thursday

2009-12-17T07:28:00.000-08:00

Last week"s Journal Thursday was about writing about others who showed kindness to you. This week will be about your kindness toward others.

Think of 3 people on 3 different occasions where you acted in kindness toward them. These can be those you know or those you had (or have) never met. Journal about each of these experiences. Please limit these 3 entries to actions you took that had no ulterior motives attached.

Journal Thursday

2009-12-10T10:41:00.000-08:00

Tis the season of giving, sharing and gratefulness. Many times we may find ourselves overlooking kindness done for us especially when we are in emotional or mental pain.

Take a moment and reflect back to 3 times when someone extended kindness to you...no matter how big or small. This could have been from a friend, family member, an acquaintance or complete stranger. Whether the person may or may not have had ulterior motives is irrelevant at this point. The emphasis is on an act of kindness...not reading into motives. If, however, ulterior motives would negatively affect your journaling, pick another act of kindness.

Now journal about what frame of mind you were in prior to each act of kindness. Then, journal about what you thought, how you felt and acted during and after these events.

May I encourage you to focus on what is kind, good, lovely, and admirable.

Got Bad Holiday Stress???

2009-12-08T09:53:00.000-08:00

These are the days where holiday cheer can easily become holiday jeer!

You may have been hurt by others in the past with a miserable experience or this may be a time of feeling empty due to a loved one who has passed or a separation from a close friend or spouse due to a move, discontentment or a divorce. The need to be loved, respected and appreciated is always a plus as well as a need we all have and yet on these holiday times we are not in such a festive mood to receive them.

So how do we change this? Do we want things to be better? Do we want to feel better about ourselves? Even though we cannot change the past, we can change, with some help, encouragement and hope the present. How?

One way is to be for others what you seek for yourself. This is demonstrated by not expecting anything in return but to be a joy and encouragement to others...Some examples may be to send a personalized card, visit a retirement, nursing home, or an orphanage, or bake cookies or goodies for those who others may have "forgotten". Don't join any "pity" party...misery may love company but this is not for you.

Got Good Holiday Stress???

2009-12-07T11:51:00.000-08:00

Yeah...these are the days that fly by with a blur or a painful crawl. But can we make these feelings change for ourselves? Yes!

Stress can be good or bad depending on what it's about and your interpretation of it. Good? Yes! Say, for example, you are setting up a Christmas tree with all the lights and trimmings, or outdoor holiday lights and decor, or preparing a 5 course meal for a festive occasion for family and friends. It takes preparation, detailed work and timing and a bit of defining your space or menu, etc. You may think, "How will this look with this?", or "I wonder if grandma will like my new casserole dish?" or "Will Uncle Homer be offended by the Santa on the lawn?" or "Will all these lights blink the way they are suppose to?"or ???

Pace yourself for enjoyable memories that you can hold for you...savor the good times as well as embrace the trying times.

Journal Thursday

2009-12-03T11:28:00.000-08:00

For today's journal entry, identify 3 traits you admire of 2-3 people in your life who are close to you. Take a moment and journal about each trait...what it is, what it means to you, and how it is demonstrated by these people. Then, consider a word of thanks to each of them for these traits. I believe it would be a blessing to them with a smile :).

What's your take on celebrations?

2009-11-30T08:23:00.000-08:00

How do you like to enjoy them? Do you love the planning? Decorating? Do you anticipate the people? Hosting? The bustle of activities? The food? The happy feelings? Singing with others?

OR

Do you dread celebrations? Get stressed out? Have they got "out of hand" in the past? Do you find yourself sad or anxious, or angry? Has negative things happened because of "over" celebrating by you or others? Do you avoid certain people or activities during major celebrations? Holidays?

Evaluate your perspective about celebrations including how you feel, thoughts that come to mind, and actions you find yourself doing in anticipation, preparation or lack of especially during the end of the year holiday season. Focus on your attitude and what you tell yourself about celebrating and giving it a healthy and positive meaning.

Celebrations with laughter...laughter is good therapy for us.

Happy Thanksgiving

2009-11-26T09:38:00.000-08:00

We pause today to give thanks. It is good and healthy to be thankful...may it be a part of your everyday life!

Got Stress??? Let's Review An Example

2009-11-23T12:54:00.000-08:00

Now let's look at the first example from the last post. "My kids won't behave". This would take some time to unfold and see what's going on but let's look at this from a stress reduction approach (not necessarily from a parenting model approach).

Take a look at what's going on inside you when your child misbehaves. Are you immediately stressed? Do you find yourself yelling? Did your child make you stressed or did you choose to get stressed? Say, he didn't get ready for school in the morning as he knows what is expected. Or does he? Reflect on your responsibility as a parent. Does he/she know what is expected? Have you communicated to him and he has repeated back to you those expectations? What is your plan if she chooses not to follow through? What about when she does? What is appropriate for her age? Though we are not necessarily approaching parenting skills here in this scenario, by you choosing to keep your attitude and tone of voice in check while you tend to your child's behavior will help you maintain control of you as you apply your parenting skills with your child.

Got Stress??? Do Something About It

2009-11-20T08:32:00.000-08:00

Many times we know we're stressed out can't seem to figure out the craziness of life as we chase our tail going 100 miles an hour. Gotta be busy with something anything and yet the need to stop just for a moment to evaluate our schedule, routine, daily or weekly activities can be the start of getting some sanity back into our lives.

Now that you have identified your stress, maybe even have written about it, now it's time to do something about it.

Take out a piece of paper and divide it in half with a vertical line. Label it as follows:

In My Responsibility and Choice To Do .... l... Not My Responsibility or Choice To Do

Take a moment and list your activities and/or relationships that stress you. These are called stressors. What is it about these activities or relationships that stress you out? Then, determine which column to put the stressors in and write them down.

Here's some examples that may help you out. "My kids won't behave", "my boyfriend just doesn't listen to me", "I've got so many parties, meetings, errands to do that I'm all over the place", "My car won't pass emissions", "I've got way too many bills", and the list goes on.

Now, take a deep breath and let it out...then breath normally. Review the columns. Focus on the left column. Consider what changes you can make and how the change would/may effect you and those who would/may be effected by the change/s.

What change in the left column are you going to start with? Consider, plan, act, review the change. Let's consider a plan from one of the examples in a future post.

Journal Thursday

2009-11-19T23:17:00.000-08:00

At times when we are stressed from everyday life we just find ourselves exhausted. Take a moment and review your day (if at the beginning of a new day review yesterday). Now journal a bit about how the day unfolded. Write about what went well, and what didn't go so well Could there have been anything you would have wanted to do differently? Jot it down.

Now, take a moment and imagine the stress from the day you just wrote about lift from you and float away. Ah, there it goes.

You can't change the past but you can change how you approach things and people from now onward. How can you make well your following day? Consider this and journal about it.

Now relax.

Making Mondays Motivating

2009-11-16T07:39:00.000-08:00

Hmmm...you say. How can Mondays be motivating?

Follow the 3 Ps

Perspective--How you view life is key in your attitude
Position--Humbly accept that you are valuable and how you are vuluable to others
Prominence--Focus on your strengths and encourage others to shine their strengths as well

So, bend your lips a little bit upward and be proud that you can make a difference when you focus on your strengths and a mission of being positive, resourceful, valuing you and those around you. You are the difference...no matter how small or big you may imagine it.

Journal Thursday

2009-11-12T10:28:00.000-08:00

Ok..so you got some stress, now what?

Take this time during Journal Thursday to identify just one of your stressors (that which causes stress) and write it down. Now, think about what gives it power in your life...why is it stressful? Write about it. Then, if you'd like, write about the other stressors you can identify.

Now think of at least 3 things in your life that have or currently give you strength, peace and hope. Write these down.

Got Stress??? What is It?

2009-11-12T09:33:00.000-08:00

Awareness of stress is of vital importance but first let's define stress.

Stress is

pressure
strain
uneasiness
a heaviness or burden
tension

This is typically applied physically, mentally, emotionally, or socially.

For example, if you are a muscle bound athlete who can easily lift 250 pounds, lifting 150 pounds would be no problem. However, compared to someone who has not trained or finds 100 pounds difficult to lift, 150 pounds would be rather stressful. Another example may be one who lives in the desert and finds 100 degrees outside as normal during the summer may find visiting Alaska during the winter a bit cold. In other words, stress to one may not be stress to another. If one has trained or prepared for certain stressors (things that cause stress) then they are more ready to handle that particular stressor.

Alright. So I got stress...who doesn't? Being aware is very important.

Take a moment and list things, people, activities in your life that you deem stressful. Then in the next blog post we will address journaling about them.

We Remember

2009-11-11T09:20:00.000-08:00

We pause as a country dedicating this day, November 11, as Veterans Day...but every day prayers whether uttered aloud or in silence for our troops (current, retired) go out in support for the men and women in service to our country as well as for their families.

We pray, "let freedom reign!"

Got Stress???

2009-11-10T10:07:00.000-08:00

Stress is all around us and affects us in so many ways. However, it doesn't need to control us. Here with Pathways we see many clients coming in due to several stressors in their lives yet few people are actually aware of all the things that cause stress let alone what to do about them.

In this series on stress awareness, we want to identify the stressors, evaluate them, and reduce or eliminate them as well as explore stress management skills.

We need to realize that stress is part of most everyone's life but it's what we do with it that is important to our mental, emotional, spiritual, and social well-being.

There are at least two camps on dealing with stress.

1) Identify, reduce, eliminate the stress.

2) Identify triggers to stress and develop coping strategies or stress management techniques.

A third one requires going deeper into the psyche focusing on the perception of stress, internal worldview, past events, conditioning, and other factors which usually takes the care of a professional to help you through them.

Stay tuned to the next post.

Peace to You

2009-11-09T14:05:00.000-08:00

"Make every effort to live in peace with everyone". Is this possible? Consider what this may do for you for a moment. In order to be at peace with others you need to be at peace within yourself.

Consider the following ways to be at peace within...

Recognize what peace means to you
Focus on things that are peaceful
Pray to God
Meditate daily
Seek after those who are peaceful people
Be encouraged by peaceful people
Read about those who have overcome adversity toward peace
Let go of the pain that keeps you from peace
Seek insight from a trusted friend, family member, elder, priest, pastor, or counselor
Be an encouragement to others irregardless of what they may or may not give you

Peace be with you.

Journal Thursday

2009-11-05T09:18:00.000-08:00

Another day for journaling.

Ok...as you are sitting down without distraction...pick a number between 1 and 7.

Now pick the day that corresponds with that number (i.e. 1=Sunday, 2=Monday and so on).

With the day now determined, go back to the overall mood you were in on that day (of course you are going back to the most recent day...including today...if your day lands on today). Journal about this mood you were in. Reflect for a moment. Was this the mood you wanted to be in? If not, what do you believe set this mood in motion? Journal about this (what set off your mood).

Now, determine what mood you will want for tomorrow...what will set you in this mood? Consider a bit for a moment what you tell yourself about what mood you will be in. Focus on what you are telling yourself about this mood. Journal some more about this.

May it be pleasant and enjoyed by you and others.

Privacy: Is It In You?

2009-11-02T08:27:00.000-08:00

In a world of speaking out, telling the world what's on your mind through social networking via the internet, does it resolve the shame, fears, hurt, and pain within you? There is a part of most people who want to let go of the anguish within but lack the trust with just anyone. As a counselor, I have heard from my clients countless times that I was the first person they told or that very few knew what they just shared in the counseling session. "I don't want my friends to be burdened...they probably won't like me if I told them that...it's none of their business...my family is the problem...my friends wouldn't understand..." are just a few of summarized quotes that have been spoken to me.

Releasing the pain...filling in the space it leaves with hope, joy, forgiveness, love, and peace is what many seek today from the privacy of their hearts as they find solace through those they trust, those who are trustworthy...whether a true trusted friend, spiritual leader, or counselor. May this be you..from the silent pain within to the confidential expression with another to the letting go to the healing.

Value your mental and emotional well-being today.

by Joel Ackley
Director, Supervisor

Journal Thursday

2009-10-29T14:47:00.000-07:00

Imagine writing your own song or poem. What would be the theme? What would you include in it? Who would it be for? For a song, what would the genre be?

Now take a moment and imagine yourself writing your song or poem.

Now....let it flow.

Option....
If this is too difficult for you, then pick a song or poem you really enjoy. Then write about what makes it special for you.

Patience in the Healing Process

2009-10-26T10:09:00.000-07:00

In our crazed and hectic society where information and feedback are instantaneous, somehow certain changes can be slow and frustrating. When it comes to our mental health, patience is the last thing we want especially when we are in emotional, mental or relational pain. We want answers and we want them now. But that ol' phrase that is like fingernails down the chalkboard, "It didn't take ya overnight to get in this mess, and it won't take ya overnight to get out of it" seems to ring out. Why? Because there are certain things in life that take time.

For example, if you have had a broken bone, you've probably anticipated a few weeks for it to heal. If you've planted some flowers, fruits or vegetables, you have expected a few weeks more for them to grow and then be ready to enjoy. However, when life takes an unexpected turn, how do we figure getting all the pieces back together or the length of time to get back to how things were if in fact they ever do?

This is where seeking assistance (whether human, divine or both), seeking social support, with courage and patience in the restorative process are key in overcoming these things. Your well being is of great value and taking the time to restore your relational, mental and emotional health matter. Time? Sacrifice? Yes, but you are well worth it! Think about the broken bone or the seeds you plant. If you did nothing, what would the results be? Your body in general has healing capabilities, rain falls to the ground to water the plants, but with proper care, healthy attention with endurance and strength, healing and growth can transpire.

Take the time for you...you matter!

Journal Thursday

2009-10-22T21:46:00.000-07:00

Journaling has become a big part of our world over the past few years and especially at the introduction the web log and then the internet social networks. Many people put whatever thoughts come to mind on their blogs, or Facebook or MySpace, or Twitter, or in texting on the mobile phone. But what about the private world? Do you have one?I believe even in the midst of social networking there are parts of our beings we do not share and are not forthcoming with.

With that said, take a moment and answer the question below. Give yourself the time you need to think through your answer...then journal.

What defines the mystery of being you...uniquely you?

Enjoy the Weather

2009-10-20T11:45:00.000-07:00

If you have been running of late and spending much of your time inside, then might I suggest a refresher to the great outdoors. Getting a few minutes of walking in the sunshine can really help reset your mental focus and attitude.

Consider going outside to a park, ride your bike or go for a hike. Plan on enjoying the beautiful Autumn weather:)...it will be well worth your time and sense of well-being! And while you are at it, invite a friend to go with you or go with a friend or two on their outdoor adventure.

Another Manic Monday???

2009-10-19T16:46:00.000-07:00

It was the song Manic Monday that caught my attention one day as I heard it again. Playing in my head wishing Monday was not today. My Sunday yesterday was long and I needed another "Sunday" to recharge.

As I reflect for a moment, we all have Mondays...days we wish didn't come or would only be around once in a blue moon. Maybe it's the day that tells us to slow down and clear our crazy, hectic lives and focus on what really matters. I find myself dragging at times not wishing that a day like today has occurred in my life...but it's days like Monday that reminds me to take time for the pain to be felt, energy to regain and reassert again that this too will pass and somehow is meant to be.

Journal Thursday

2009-10-15T18:34:00.000-07:00

Imagine doing something you have always wanted to learn how to do but for some reason have not got around to learning it...whether skate boarding, playing in a rock band, skydiving, playing for the NFL, being a dancer, or ??? Now, get in a comfortable spot at home and close your eyes and let your imagination play out that very thing.

After your imaginative activity, journal about it.

Journal Thursday

2009-10-08T12:30:00.000-07:00

Journaling is a creative, fun, insightful, and thought provoking tool that many counselors use to assist their clients in discovering, clarifying, and validating a number of things from the past, present and future thoughts, feelings, actions, attitude, perspective, etc. of the client.

With this stated, take a moment and identify an early childhood memory of a place where you found as a safe place to play. Now, imagine yourself for a moment being there. Go ahead...get in a comfortable chair, close your eyes, have a quiet low lite room, no distractions and imagine. What are the surroundings? What do you see? Hear? Smell? What do you feel? A breeze? Sunshine? What feelings are going on inside you as you are there? What are you doing? Are there others with you?

Now go ahead and journal a few lines about how it felt for you to travel back in time to that childhood place.

Do you have a place to go to today for a moment of safe, fun play?

Attitude Choices

2009-10-06T08:26:00.000-07:00

One day I was busy in my office preparing for a meeting when a salesman entered the front door. He had that salesman look and a catalog in his hand. He stated his name, his business and if I needed his product. I was a bit short with him and I didn't want what he was selling and neither his free catalog he offered. I hurried him out the door. I was pissed off. I was in the middle of thought and preparation when this guy shows up peddling his product. The gall.

Later, I reflected as to why I was so upset and what I could have done differently. Well, there is a sign on the office door saying "No Solicitors", I was in the middle of something, and I didn't need what he was selling. So yeah, I was rude and yet for good reason. Though I had been offended by this guy I realized my choice of action was returning rudeness toward some guy who ignored my office sign and just went about trying to do his job. More anguish for me then I needed.

So I reflect and realize I had a choice as to how I was going to respond and to what degree this guy and situation was to get to me. What choices are you facing? Are others annoying you or just have little boundaries with you? What are your responses to them? What attitude will you choose with those who are offensive?

Joel

Journal Thursday

2009-10-01T22:31:00.000-07:00

Imagine having the ability of going back in time. Which era would you travel to and why. Consider contributions you would make, people you would meet and so on.
Have fun, be creative!

Making More Mondays Matter

2009-09-28T11:19:00.000-07:00

Here's an acronym to start the week. You make the difference in the lives you touch including your own.

Have you ever wondered why Mondays seem different and unappealing then say Friday? Why is that? Maybe it is what you tell yourself about these particular days. Try a new perspective about Mondays.

Here's the 4 Ms to remember....

Making- With intent and purpose with a thoughtful preparation telling yourself that this is the day you make a positive difference in the lives of others

More- Recognizing the energy and sustainability of being a human being in motion adding strength and courage each day. This adds momentum for change one little step at a time.

Mondays- It is a day that you determine is the day you make it...it doesn't make you, you determine what it will be for you.

Matter- You and what you do matters because each day is unique in and of itself and will not return again.

Making the most of what matters most!

Journal Thursday

2009-09-24T22:44:00.000-07:00

This is an opportunity we set aside for those who wish to pursue self introspection... to reflect within for self care, self-esteem boost along with self responsibility and fulfillment and satisfaction. We also encourage you to invite others in your circle to do the same and with those you really trust to share your introspective thoughts for mutual growth together.

With that said, take 3 note cards write, "I am planning to complete the following goal by __________. (Then list your goal here...one per card). If you receive this message, please mail it back to me asking if I have met this goal. Any encouraging words would be greatly appreciated. Thanks". Be sure each goal you are currently pursuing or plan to complete is within six months to no more than a year. Also, include on each of the cards your name and address with a postcard stamp(email or snail mail or even a Skype #). Get 3 balloons filled with helium and attach each card to their perspective balloon and take them to a large clearing and release them. Then go about pursuing your 3 goals and wait and see which card/s get returned to you.

A Refreshed Journey

2009-09-22T12:02:00.000-07:00

We are coming back into the blogging scene after a couple year hiatus. It seems that everywhere we see blogs of all kinds and an over abundance of opinions out there. We here with Pathways want to provide a bit of information, knowledge, as well as some fun along with internal and external expression and reflection. We have given our web log a new name to reflect more of life as a journey, ever evolving and changing as we adapt and adjust to change and hopefully along the way hold fast to viable, sound values and judgments which will act as a foundation for character, honor, strength and courage in these tumultuous times.

If there are topics along the way that you would like for us to address, please let us know. We will do our best to address these areas or see if we could point you in the right direction.

Feel free to visit our site at http://www.pathwaystucson.com and peruse through the site and offer some feedback if you'd like. We are here to be of service for you, your partner, family as well as friends.

Our new email address is info@pathwaystucson.com if you'd like to drop us a line.

Are You Connecting With Him?

2007-10-01T09:27:00.000-07:00

Many women find themselves stumped and bewildered when they try to communicate with men and especially the main man in their lives. Here's an article that suggests that you can reach his heart by "getting into his head".

Communication, open and honest with the other person's character at heart will much more often than not produce a genuine and lasting relationship.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Journal Thursday

2007-09-27T09:43:00.000-07:00

Today's journal will be on reminiscing. Pull out the old photo album or box of pictures and find one that is "ordinary". Look at it and reflect for a moment where you were or where it was taken and write out what comes to mind. Remember, it's the ordinary days that fill our lives the most and it is in these days that we reflect...our purpose, meaning, as well as our character which is demonstrated to others in these days.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Job Blues?

2007-09-25T09:28:00.000-07:00

Have you been feeling the "job blues" lately at work? Are there times you wish you were at another job? Well, according to career expert Marty Nemko you are not alone. Many workers find that it may be the company, an annoying boss or manager, broken promises, and the list goes on as to why they are dissatisfied. It may be necessary to evaluate where you stand with the company or your boss or confronting your own expectations of the job. Re-evaluating your circumstances and exploring your options certainly may help ease some anxiety and put you in the driver's seat for a fulfilling job.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Coping With Loss

2007-09-17T08:49:00.000-07:00

Loss in our lives is one of those things we know exists but have difficulty facing. We know it will happen but when, and with who, and why? Why does it happen at times unexpectedly? Here's an article about coming to grips with loss and as we do, working through the pain toward healing.

If you or someone you know has suffered a loss, you are not alone. Seeking solace from others and through counseling may truly be sources of comfort and healing.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Journal Thursday

2007-09-13T10:18:00.000-07:00

Take out a blank (no lines) piece of paper and a box of crayons. After reading through this paragraph, put a blindfold over your eyes. Imagine a pleasant scene that you have seen or dreamed of. The more the abstract the better (such as a sunrise or sunset or an outdoors scene). Now, reach for your crayons and begin to create your scene. NO PEEKING. Take your time and let your imagination do the creating. Remember: This is an exercise of expression and not perfection.

When you are done, remove the blindfold. Without the eyes as your critic, did your work turn out as you imagined?

Now journal your thoughts and feelings about this exercise.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Kindling the Relationship Flame

2007-09-12T07:12:00.000-07:00

Keeping the relationship alive can be a joy or a chore. Relationships that last have a much greater tendency of lasting when there is a strong committment in making it work. Here's an article that makes some great points on keeping the "flame" going.
Give it a read and see where you can make a positive impact in your relationship.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

We Remember

2007-09-11T09:00:00.000-07:00

Our thoughts and prayers for our country in remembering those who lost their lives 6 years ago today.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Journal Thursday

2007-09-06T06:58:00.000-07:00

Today will be totally up to you. Take a moment and write whatever comes to your mind. We may call this "free association"...a way to let out what is on your mind however it comes out. It could come out not making any sense or jibberish, random, etc. This is a way of helping to clear your mind.

After a few hours or a day has past, read your entry. You may want to highlight certain things that "jump" out at you and later make note of them.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Does Bullying Effect Your Child?

2007-09-05T11:00:00.000-07:00

We see or hear about it in the schools or at PTA meetings, or in parent gatherings--bullying. It's something that may start as teasing, crude humor directed toward certain "types" of peers, then negative talk directed toward individuals, it then may lead to threats, pushing, kicking, and so on.
If your child is complaining about being bullied or may change his/her routine to or from school or with extra-curricular activities, leaves or comes home feeling scared or procrastinates in going to school, take notice and ask questions. Be calm, loving, and listen as you learn what is going on. Here's some tips that may be helpful in dealing with the bullying.

Being in tune with your child may help encourage him/her to be more confident, reassured, and pro-active.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Journal Thursday

2007-08-30T06:46:00.000-07:00

If you were to be given a gift, any gift you wanted, what would it be?
Who would give it?
What would the significance be of this gift?

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Suicide Awareness

2007-08-29T15:54:00.000-07:00

Recently in the news, a known actor was treated for a suicide attempt. In the past, we have seen many others who have attempted and/or succeeded. It is important to be aware of signs within yourself as well as in your family or friends. Here are some things to be aware of that may help save your life or someone elses.

Here's a link to suicide hotlines or call 1-800-SUICIDE. Of course, if you or anyone else is in imminent danger, call 911 immediately.

If you would like counseling in the Tucson area for suicidal thoughts, depression, anxiety, alcohol/drug use, or other concerns, we are here to help. Please feel free to let us know.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com
phone: 520-292-9750

Return to Education...

2007-08-22T16:28:00.000-07:00

Well, here we are...for many of us school has started, re-started or is about to once again. Whether we have school-aged children, are getting into college, or not, school season effects us one way or another. Education is advertised in so many circles from TV, magazines, newspapers, radio, etc. We hear about "save up for your child's education", or "start school now and finish is as little as 9 months", or "go back to school...", or "advance your career...", and other such proclamations. But does learning have to be connected to a "formal" education? Can we learn and educate ourselves in other ways? Sure we can!!!

What do you do to educate yourself on various topics? Re-discover learning as a way to expand your mind and exchange your knowledge with others.

Keep your mind alert & sharp...you never know when and how you will be called upon to use it!

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Journal Thursday

2007-08-09T09:11:00.000-07:00

Starting Again...
The theme for today's journal entry. Think of a time when you had to start an activity all over again....whether a project, an assignment, a trip, a class, a relationship, etc. What were you initial thoughts and feelings? How did you "start over"? How did it end up? What did you learn from the event?

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Movie Time: For Fun & Chat

2007-07-13T16:47:00.000-07:00

Movies, movies, movies. As many as there are people and opinions there are movies. Consider a date night or just gathering with family or friends for a movie that you could later talk about.

Enjoy.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Journal Thursday

2007-07-12T14:46:00.000-07:00

Identify 3 people in your life, whether in the past or currently that have been or are a great influence in your life. Identify and write down 5-7 key attributes about each one that jump out at you right away. Then, take each attribute and describe each one in summary fashion.

Then, take a highlighter and highlight those attributes you see in yourself.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Dream to a New Work

2007-07-11T17:14:00.000-07:00

Ever feel you are stuck or just not cutting it in your current job? Have you just stopped dreaming? Here's an article that may be an encouragement for you to keep dreaming alive and move you to a plan of action.

If your gifts, talents, passions, and values aren't alive with you in your current job, it may be time to rediscover you, and seek satisfaction in your career.

Career counseling is a viable option to help assist you in discovering your design or re-inventing you in moving you to leaving a legacy full of meaning and significance.

What would you like to do?

Here for you....
Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Do I Panic?

2007-07-09T14:30:00.000-07:00

Ever find yourself or someone you love having an overwhelming fear or panic? Do the feelings seem to come on for little or no apparent reason? Does anxiety creep into your life unexpected?

Learn more about this treatable condition.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Journal Thursday

2007-07-05T11:28:00.000-07:00

As it is the day after the the 4th celebrations, I thought it would be good to do a Journal Thursday on -- journaling about what freedom, true freedom mean to you. Is freedom a gift without responsibility? Write also on what it means to be responsible with your freedom.

If you'd like, please post here on our blog. Thanks.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Liberty: A Far Cry from Tyranny

2007-07-04T06:50:00.000-07:00

Here's a speech spoken over 230 years ago from a bold Patriot.

Read,Enjoy, Ponder, Reflect, and Act.

May our freedoms be gained not by fear or force, but by courage, boldness in what is good, right and whole.

United we stand, d i v i d e d we fall.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Does Thin = Happiness?

2007-07-02T11:36:00.000-07:00

It seems we are bombarded with infomercials, ads, and news stations talking about weight, being fit, trim, etc and many times we may find that we lose ourselves in the whole shuffle. Here's an article that may help you set some realistic goals toward a healthy perspective of you and your body image.

Your health is worth the effort.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Journal Thursday

2007-06-28T12:28:00.000-07:00

Here's another angle on journaling. Think of numbers...what numbers come to mind? Any favorites? Birthday? Anniversary? Phone #? First day of _______? Any numbers that are significant for you? What thoughts and feelings are associated with the number/s?

Now journal about these numbers, their significance along with your thoughts and feelings.

Reflect for a moment...focus on the positive and fondness of these memories. If any unfinished business, consider talking with a trusted friend and/or consider talking with a counselor in order to work them out toward your health and healing.

Remember: You are of great value.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Keeping the Discipline of Children in Check

2007-06-25T15:45:00.000-07:00

Parenting today can be rather difficult and out-right stressful. This may lead to poor or at times "destructive" parenting. In an article with FamilyEducation.com the author identifies 8 destructive ways. Parents can avoid them by being aware of them and changing any negative way/s in parenting.

You can be a positive role model for your children!

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Hugs

2007-06-22T11:07:00.000-07:00

Remember your 5 hugs a day...they do wonders! Of course, remember to ask before you walk up to someone and squeeze 'em.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Summer Story-time

2007-06-18T13:00:00.000-07:00

Are the kids getting bored at home or is it just too hot to get outside? Here's a fun way to tap into your kids' imagination as well as yours. Instead of turning on the TV, make up your own cartoon or TV show. Create a line of characters, costumes, and a "stage" in your living room or bedroom. The characters' roles, functions, environment, etc is up to all involved. Write out a story, or make it up as you go along. This will help all to "s t r e t c h" your imagination and creativity.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Need a Pick-Me-Up?

2007-05-22T09:08:00.000-07:00

Do we all get down from time to time? Yes, most people experience some form of let down or sadness in their lives. When we lose a loved one, a change in our job responsibilities, or loss of a job, various forms of disturbing news, a decision gone bad, even when we come to the end of a hard fought and obtained goal we may notice an energy shift.
However, when we find ourselves in a "slump", just dragging along, we could use a lift to get us back up again. From a perspective of feeling happy, here are some things you could do to help improve your mood.

Sometimes when we need a pick-me-up, picking someone else up along the way can truly pick us up as well!

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Helping Kids Cope

2007-05-21T10:33:00.000-07:00

Kids encounter many stressors today and being aware of the stressors and ways to cope with them can really help children through them. Here's some ways to help a child cope with stress.

Being there, and listening to a child is a big start. What are some ways you can "be there" as a support?

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Journal Thursday

2007-05-17T09:23:00.000-07:00

Choose a flower, any flower...from the ground, from a picture...anywhere. Stare at it for a moment. What do you see? What is unique about it? What about its environment? How does it complement its environment? Write these things down.

Now, go to a mirror. Look into it for a moment. What do you see? What is unique about you? What is your life's environment like? How do you complement your environment? Write these things down.

Finish by journaling your experiences.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Creative Time Together

2007-05-16T09:05:00.000-07:00

Many couples today are finding it harder and harder to share time together and especially making the time to talk through life's issues. Some couples are are using their time in the car to talk while others use text messaging, "sticky" notes, and other elusive forms of communicating. We may find it hard to communicate with one another when we have various distractions and other "committments" that interfer with our connection with our partner.

What general and creative ways do you find that are effective in communicating with your partner? If you find it difficult to connect or frustrating when you do, it may lead to hurt, anger, fear, and aloneness. A "tune-up" in counseling may be helpful in renewing that spark, the fun of being "with", and getting the value of "WE" back in the relationship!

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Divorce Down?

2007-05-11T10:00:00.000-07:00

There's an article that points out a trend in divorce rates--saying it's down...the lowest since the 70's. Different reasons are identified. How is it for you? Whether you are married, or partnering with someone, are you happy? Is the relationship on the rocks? Do you want to improve yourself as a couple or is it over? Maybe getting some help for the both of you would be beneficial or maybe just sorting some things out on your own may be good for you.

Consider the value of your relationship and yourself. Are you (as a couple or yourself) worth it?

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Jounral Thursday

2007-05-10T10:23:00.000-07:00

For today's journal entry, draw a circle about the size of a CD...then draw another circle the size of the base of a disposable water bottle inside the CD circle. In the smaller circle, write what things that matter most in your life. Now, in ther larger circle, write all the activities that you do that distract you from those things that matter most in your life.

Now, take a black marker, pencil, or lipstick or white correction fluid and mark out the outer circle (with its contents) while keeing the inner circle intact.

Journal ways you can keep your inner circle intact.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Get Ready for the Interview

2007-05-09T08:38:00.000-07:00

Knowing the job you want, having the knowledge to do the work are very vital, but so is being ready for the interview and presenting yourself well. Her are some things to keep in mind when you go into the interview.

Happy interviewing!

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Journal Thursday

2007-05-03T16:49:00.000-07:00

Have you ever been assessed at work? The yearly evaluations? Have you ever given one?
Well, today's journal entry is for you to write a descriptive narrative about someone close to you as if you were going to describe the person to someone who doesn't know him/her. Describe the person's character traits, ability in interacting with you and others, and his/her citizenship and/or leadership qualities.
When done, would you share your narrative with the one you wrote about? If so, then do so. It just may make his/her day.

Happy journaling!

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Are You Ready?

2007-04-30T08:41:00.000-07:00

Here it is the last day of April and students from all over the country are cramming their cranium with mass information for final exams and papers to turn in. But for those "non-students", how does the student population effect you? Do you grin in anticipation that someone you love is graduating? Will business pick up or slow down after the (college) students leave? What can you do to prepare for school ending (this season) for many?

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

It's NeverToo Late

2007-04-27T08:56:00.000-07:00

At 95 years young, an inspiring learner will grace the graduation platform next month as the oldest known student to graduate from college. What a story of one woman's journey who keeps her mind sharp and will be a motivation for many in the months and years to follow.

Way to go! You can do it! Stick to your goals & aspirations! Don't give up! When you feel discouraged, look to others for strength, guidance, and inspiration!

Have a wonderful weekend!

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Jounral Thursday

2007-04-26T09:05:00.000-07:00

Reach in your pocket or handbag and find your keys. Pick a key and reflect then journal about what door that key opens, where it leads, what does the space that the key opens to represent to you.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Healthy Mood Food

2007-04-24T08:53:00.000-07:00

Whether we want to admit it or not, there's a reason or two why we eat what we eat. "What do you want to eat? What are you in the mood for?" How many of us plan weeks in advance what we are going to eat for lunch or dinner? To put ourselves in a happy or energetic mood, try out some suggestions from this atricle and you may find yourself in a wonderful happy mood.

Keep your body along with your mind and spirit toned!

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Jounral Thursday

2007-04-19T17:00:00.000-07:00

Today, in wake of the recent Virginia Tech tragedy, journal your feelings about this tragedy. If this event is not known to you or doesn't interest you, then journal your feelings about another recent tragedy.
What positive things can you do about this tragedy? Journal these things. Consider what you may do from these positive things.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Interview Readiness

2007-04-18T08:43:00.000-07:00

There's times when we just want to get a job. We figure we qualified for some jobs we're looking at at then we get the call for an interview. But are we ready for it? Here's some blunders to avoid and some ways to be prepared.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

When Mayhem Strikes

2007-04-17T09:54:00.000-07:00

Why? How? Who could do this? Could this have been prevented? Did the authorities take proper action? What can be done? These are just a few of the questions stirring with yesterday's horrific killings at the Virginia Tech campus. Our country mourns again for loss at mass and our hearts, peace, and prayers go to the families and friends of those struck and to the students, professors, faculty, staff who have gone and are going through this tragedy.

Some Resources
Preparedness and coping with tragedy
Coping

On a Courageous Note:
A Virginia Tech Hero's Story

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Are You on a Technology Leash?

2007-04-16T09:03:00.000-07:00

With all the advances in technology today, isn't it a wonder our jobs may take too much advantage of it? A survey was done with workers who carried some of the latest gadgets.

How would you answer the survey? Would you make some changes with how you use the latest gizmos?

Life in perspective.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Can You Choose Happiness?

2007-04-12T11:08:00.000-07:00

Found an artcle on happiness and thought I'd share it with you. What do you think? Can you choose to be happy? Is it elusive like a butterfly, or is it something you can pursue until obtained? Can it stay with you?

Some things to reflect on.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Jounral Thursday

2007-04-12T10:55:00.000-07:00

On the path of life we tread many journeys...some short, some spun out, some ssalient, some sluggish, some satisfying, some second-rate. Today, consider a journey in your life that made you stronger as a human being. Jounral about the ups and downs, the good, bad, and indifferent. How did it make you stronger? What did you learn from it?

Would you share your journey story with another who may be struggling as you did...to be helpful for him or her?

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Jounral Thursday on Friday?

2007-04-06T21:45:00.000-07:00

Ever have one of those days you wish would just end...you just want to fast-forward through it and hope it goes away? But then there's something about a new day being a fresh start. We get them everyday...but of course, one at a time.

For your journal entry write about that new day...not about what has happened today or yesterday but rather about tomorrow...what you are to make happen, a day with hope, joy, newness, peace.

After the hard rain comes new growth, life and a chance to start anew. Question is, "Will the rain water stand still and turn green or will it flow through you to refresh and give you life?"

Joel
info@emmau2u.com

PASSION

2007-04-04T12:55:00.000-07:00

What comes to mind when you hear the word passion? Strong desire? Intense emotion? Lust? Sacrifice? Enduring fervor? This week is considered by some as Passion Week...referring to the Passion of the Christ and his ultimate sacrifice. What "passion" did he show? Do you share in his passion? Could you sacrifice yourself for another?

Well, it may not be death but it could be spending time with someone in need, or listening to a friend's concerns, or paying a bill for another, or babysitting for a friend or ???

What motivates your passion? Is is selfless or selfish?

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Bored at Work?

2007-04-04T12:07:00.000-07:00

Ask youself these questions.....
Are your skills and talents put to good use?
Are you better off where you are at?
Are you up for a raise or promotion (or did you recently get one)?
Are you not willing to relocate?
Are you willing to improve yourself with the current company?

If you answered "no" to most of these questions, then you may need to get ready to move on.
Maybe, you just need some time to sort things out or to reflect on the actual line of work you are doing. Is it you? Do you wake up ready to get the work done? Does it align with your career goals? Your skills? Talents? If not, then maybe it's time to get some career counseling and take an assessment or two to get a better handle on what work best fits you. This is an area we may be able to help you with. Feel free to email us.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com

Journal Thursday

2007-03-29T10:12:00.000-07:00

Today is picture-it-and-draw-it day for journaling. Imagine a recent challenge you had to overcome and you did it. What comes to mind in that whole challenge? Picture it in your mind and draw something that reminds you of you overcoming the challenge.

Give it a try.

Joel
info@emmaus2u.com